In all kinds of ways (if we are willing), our children take us into places in our heart we didn’t know existed. -Dr. Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent
What is Conscious Parenting?
As amazing as our children are, parenting is hard. Children are unique and tender spirits and how we, as parents, engage with them will influence them for the rest of their lives. In a world that’s already turbulent, we understand the highs and lows that can happen during this incredible journey. One of our specialties as therapists is in supporting mothers and fathers in conscious parenting. Traditional parenting methods are considered a power-based approach whereas conscious parenting is relationship-based. This includes guiding our children in ways other than the ways in which we ourselves were parented, doing ancestry work to change familial patterns, and developing psychological skill sets and mindfulness skills to support healthy relationships with our children and families.
OUR CONSCIOUS PARENTING WORK TOGETHER
Psychotherapy supports the development of conscious parenting skill sets by helping to expand awareness of what’s happening in our relationships with our children as well as provide tools to use in-the-moment or in general. In our sessions together, our work may include:
•Exploring conscious conception, surprises, adoption, accidents, and other karmic curiosities that brought you and your child together
•Techniques for maintaining your health and sanity while raising young ones
•Holistic Psychiatry support for parents making tough decisions about whether or not to medicate their child
•Holistic Psychiatry support for using cannabis as a first line treatment for certain pediatric psychiatric conditions
•Deepening and improving your own relationship with cannabis so that you can better parent a teen who uses cannabis
•Support in discussing your own medicine use with your children
•Caring for your inner child while raising kids — especially when he/she is acting up (aka needing love and acceptance)
•How to talk with your kids about body boundaries, sex, plant medicines, psychedelics, drugs, and other important topics
•Art ideas for promoting attunement, balance, and healthy attachment in your home
•Getting your parenting ego out of the way — contacting who your child truly is, rather than who you want them to become (which is often a response to our own young wounds)
•Working through tantrums, power struggles, and other opportunities for crisis and/or connection
•What to do when you realize your kids are in charge instead of you
•Noticing and transforming ancestral patterns, tendencies and addictions
•Learning how to play again
Psychedelic Therapy for Conscious Parenting
For many of our clients, general counseling as well as psychedelic-assisted work have profoundly impacted their relationships with their children and families. We are conditional advocates for legal, safe and sacred psychedelic therapy as a meaningful tool in the conscious parenting journey. When we step into psychedelic therapy, we are able to do our own work so that we aren’t passing our traumas, unhealthy or unconscious patterns, or unresolved issues along to our children. The psychedelic journey may also include an opening of the heart space enhancing our ability to be compassionate, patient, loving parents. When we are able to mindfully read and write our own story, we empower our children to do the same.
Author of Conscious Parenting, Dr. Shefali Tsabary suggests, “When you parent, it’s crucial you realize you aren’t raising a “mini me,” but a spirit throbbing with its own signature. For this reason, it’s important to separate who you are from who each of your children is. Children aren’t ours to possess or own in any way. When we know this in the depths of our soul, we tailor our raising of them to their needs, rather than molding them to fit our needs.”
Psychedelic Therapy offers the opportunity for parents to turn towards becoming their best selves as individuals, while also embracing their child’s unique spirit. It also strengthens bonds and promotes healthy attachment within the family system. We know from experience that intentional work like this can heal intergenerational traumas and make us better parents.